Self-Confidence Re-Defined ,Varun's style! :D

Confidence is the most important thing you can teach someone... if you can teach them confidence, you don't have to teach them anything else.


Self-Confidence is all about having that faith and Trust or assurity feeling in ourselves ,which is the most important character of a person,a person who dose not believe in himself or what decision he has made ,or with what ever he is upto,will always be in turmoil or confusion!
If we wanna become a leader the most important quality that we should posses is confidence in ourselves,or the decision what we have taken!
When we speak for huge number of people only confidence will lead us,to the target we should reach,
Second thought about our decisions are quite common ,but doubting the same after the  decision has been made leads  to a unsatisfied person,with inferiority complex!!Think Twice before any decisions is being made but never after!

Self-confidence is not a feeling of superiority, but of independence.

• According to me the best and most easy way to regain our confidence is to ,present ourselves in a Good and stylish way .Dressing ourselves ,obviously every person likes to dress himself is a commanding outfit ,which is in the current trend.Choosing what to wear vary from person to person.
  Never try to blend into the people  or surrounding where are just try to be different ,i ain't telling you to pop up  in some neon color's which is totally opposite to what i m telling you right now.lol :D
  Choose your wardrobe carefully ,it should be stylish ,elegant and of course trendy .
  Never be lazy about what your are gonna wear  take your time and think what kinda clothing will suite me,i m damm sure you have a image of us is a fabulous outfit just go for it.If still you have trouble in deciding what to wear ask the people close to choose for you!!
  wearing a tuxedo or formal outfit with a sports shoes make me feel like puking!!  :X
  I generally prefer a tuxedo or a traditional silk dhoti or pattu veshti or a kurtha depending on the occasion!!
  Casually i would be seen sporting a shorts or jean with a tee and a shirt over it ,loafer or flip flops!!
  Sunglasses always Wayfarer Ray ban! :D
• What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you uncomfortable or ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from , friends at school,college ,work or  negative experience. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it and try to bring about a positive ,warm thought about the same which may not yield results now but sooner or later everything will be fine.What we think about us is the prime most factor, if we feel good and we ain't causing anybody any harm then we are on the right path.I  personally believe that divinity can help us in many ways,try praying or worshiping the creator , i m sure it will bring a warm and positive aura in and around us!
  Not an easy one, take some time to dig deeper into yourself to answer why you allow others to make you feel inferior? Why don't they feel inferior? lol 
  
  
  
                                                                                                                                                
•  Let’s face it. We all worry about the past that haunt us for the fact that we correlate the failed result of a planned action with our self-esteem. We forget that  regardless of the extent of prudent thinking and planning, as a human being  we are prone to err. As I explore deeper into the reasoning for this correlation, it becomes visibly clear to me that I felt defeated when my efforts failed.
  If I can detach my ego out of my thought process, I can boost my self-confidence to live life with as much passion as a mother loves her child with all his or her err.
  
  
  
  
  "Human potential is the same for all. Your feeling, "I am of no value", is wrong. Absolutely wrong.
  
  You are deceiving yourself. We all have the power of thought- so what are you lacking? 
  If you have willpower, then you can change anything. It is usually said that you are your own master."
  With the realization of ones own potential and self-confidence in ones ability, one can build
  a better world. According to my own experience, self-confidence is very important.
   That sort of confidence is not a blind one; it is an awareness of ones own potential.
  On that basis, human beings can transform themselves by increasing the good qualities
  and reducing the negative qualities."-His Holiness Dalai lama
• Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, photography or even better start to put your thoughts into writing like me ,write a blog :D   etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons online . When you're following your passion, not only will it have a Positive self assured  effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends and increase your friends circle.
  
  
  
  
• A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's good friends,family, good luck, money or what ever. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
   Avoid self-pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior
  they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to see yourself down and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak think and acting positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others
• The last but the most important factor is , the way we interact with people in our daily life.Most successfull people are those who know they Art of interacting and dealing with people.
  When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people's lives, you'll know that you are a positive force in the world which will boost your self confidence.Thank people in our daily life no matter  how small ,the act committed by them .These act of kindness will put a smile on people's face.At the same time compliment people for the work they have done .Feel Free compliment the other person this will encourage him to put maximum effort the next time!!!.
  Correcting people can be made easier and the friction in the conversation can be decreased by a simple compliment used in the right manner,but don't over do it! :P
  Self-confidence comes from being challenged to one's limits, meeting them and then setting new limits.
  
  
  
  
  Ha Ha , i thought i should keep this post as small  and concised as possible but couldn't help .
  Sorry if i have been too spiritual in my explanations! :D lol
  Reference-- Buddhism ,SuccessSoul
  
  
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